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Interesting Musings on Panties
by "Doc Panty"
more 10/29/01
Our first inquiry was sent some time ago, just a brief, plaintive cryWe visit this site because it fills a lot of our needs:
- Frustrated with your panty "binge and purge" cycles?
- So knotted up with guilt that you're sure everyone on the street somehow knows about your panty obsession?
- Wondering if your panty need is keeping you from having a better relationship with your partner?
- Always making resolutions to give up panties, yet you never do?
- Sweating being "busted" by your lover, and don't know how to talk to her about why you do what you do?
- Just wanting someone "safe" to talk to?
Our Resident Psychologists Van & Olga provide an understanding perspective to your panty related questions and concerns. And don't forget—Van is "one of us", too!
- To read what others have to say about panties and how they are part of our lives
- To look at the pictures
- For a safe place just to hang out, a place where we feel welcome and among friends
A Battle for Self-Acceptance
Case # 2
Panty Fetish vs. Cross-Dresser?
Case # 3
Confess To Wife with Nosy Family?
Case # 4
Wants A Friend to Participate, Not merely Accept
Case # 5
Black Panty Lover Wonders About Others Like Him
Case # 6
O. K. To Swap Wive's Panties?
Case # 3
Wonders About Effect On Son
Case # 8
Can't Stop; Afraid of Damnation
Case # 9
Too Late to "Get Out"?
Case # 10
Lucky One, "Comes Out" To Wife
Case # 11
Can't resist, causes anxiety
Case # 12
"I'm not gay, but..."
Case # 13
A Young Couple in Serious Trouble Over Panties
Case # 14
Frank Revelations from a Ph.D Psychologist
Case # 15
Embarassing Erections
Case # 16
My Wife Doesn't Understand Me...
Case # 17
Worried Panty Sniffer
Case # 18
Not Gay, Seeks Playmate
Case # 19
Not Crazy, Contented...
Case # 20
Wife Is Not Included, Feels Hurt
Case # 21
Frightened He Will Lose Control If He Succumbs
Case # 22
Does Mother Know?
Case # 23
Wife Is Freaked!
Case # 24
"All The Above"
Case # 25
Busted!
Case # 26
Shy But Happy
Case # 27
Panty Bondage
Case # 28
Am I Crazy?
Case # 29
Pads In My Panties
Case # 30
This site has enlightened me.....
Case # 31
Wife Indulges, Is Resentful After
Case # 32
You're OK!
Case # 33
My Son Has Been Into My Panty Drawer
Case # 34
On a Business Trip [see Story #99 ]
Case # 35
Black Man Loves the Feel, but Worries About a Real Relationship
Case # 36
Shy, Not Gay, and Like Most, a Panty Lover
Case # 37
Buys 'Em From a Department Store—Why Does It Feel So Good?
Case # 38
Despair So Intense He Fears He Might Have To End It All
Case # 39
One of the Lucky Ones
Case # 40
Wants to "Come Out"—Resist or Reveal?
Case # 41
Clueless [Most of Us Would Kill For Her]
Case # 42
more 1/7/02
more on Case # 15
more 1/7/02
Send Van & Olga your queries. We'll publish them, and Van & Olga's thoughts here on the site. (Anonymously, of course)
Van is a lifelong panty-lover with a degree in Counseling Psychology. For years he wondered if he would ever understand his attraction to undies. According to Van, he never really has. He considered and ultimately rejected psychoanalytic and psychological interpretations of deviance. Eventually he came to see it an innocent yet complex form of sexual imprinting. At a certain point Van decided it was an O.K., even desirable inclination and never looked back.
Van comments, "I am very interested in how other panty lovers attempt to either integrate or hide their panty interest from their wives, lovers, or girlfriends. I believe that the more secretive one is the more compulsive a habit becomes. Sharing this most intimate attraction and desire with a loved one on the other hand offers the possibility of genuine acceptance, better sex, and a stronger relationship. Having tried both approaches and varying degrees of openness about it, I would like to share some of what I've learned. I want to celebrate panty love and help others (including couples) have fun with it without feeling guilty or weird."
Olga is Van's partner and also has a degree in Counseling. Olga has enjoyed very satisfying sex with Van for the many years of their relationship. Still, she was initially quite puzzled when she realized that her undies held a particular fascination for him. Gradually, over time, she understood that their sexual fulfillment and his propensity were not mutually exclusive, and found ways to incorporate his interests with hers. Olga comments, "Still, there are some aspects that both bewilder, and, at times, trouble me. I look forward to sharing my viewpoints with interested readers and, perhaps, their partners, offering my own unique experience and suggestions."
"If your fondness for panties is a concern for you or for someone you care about, you have a question, or just want to share your story with someone, drop us a line. Olga and I may not always agree with one another, but we pledge to tell it the way each of us sees it."
—Van and Olga